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Transformation is a becoming process - it is not instantaneous, regardless of what they show you in Disney princess stories. There is no fairy godmother or wizard waving a magic wand. There is no sprinkling of fairy dust that helps you to fly. Transformation in the real world requires intention and action aligned with the intention.
When you consider your new role, what does it mean that you do? What's your vision? How do you need to think? In what ways do you need to interact with others in order to fulfill the role that the title demands? What new skills do you need to learn, and what of your current talents do you need to hone?
You might think that you are already ready. You might think that this next stage is the reward for action that you have already taken, for skills you have already acquired - and you might be right, in part. But thinking that this new role is your due creates complacency and prevents you from being open to learning. In the days, weeks, months, even years that you have been contemplating this step you have been seeing it in hypothetical, maybe even romantic, terms. Reality and what the actual role requires might be quite different.
Here's an almost universal example: when a young adult contemplates parenthood they see the cuteness, the snuggles, the bedtime stories. But the transition into parenthood includes tantrums, toxic diaper changes, sleepless nights and worries as well. The new parent's love for the child pulls him or her into an intention of doing the job "right," whatever that means. And the new parents willingly undergo the learning curve that helps them to transform into real parents.
When you know the transition is coming you can start ahead of time to do the learning that helps your transformation to be a smoother and perhaps even a shorter process. The way that you think about your new role influences your behavior, but you might have to help yourself to transform by choosing actions in a mindful way - you might need to set specific behavioral goals to help yourself to develop new beneficial habits.
Transformation is a continuous process. As you grow, you see the next opportunities for growth. As external conditions change, there is an accompanying need for you to adapt to survive, to manage or even to capitalize on them.The bad news - and the good news - is that you are never "done." If you open yourself to be continuously transformed (aligned with intention, of course) you can continue to grow - no matter your title, no matter your tenure, no matter your chronological age.